Love isn’t…

Valentine’s Day this year geared up to what it usually is for me. It usually looks like me hanging a wreath and maybe a few pieces around the house here and there and the rest of the time is just waiting for the day to arrive. Usually deep down hoping it’s a day where I get to go on a date with my husband. A day that’s hyped up. One where we express our love to each other more so than most other days. 


But now that it’s the day of, I found myself in pondering thought this morning about what this day is and what it’s supposed to be. Asking myself where did a heart begin to be a symbol of love? Why the heck is this day so commercialized? 


I don’t remember the history behind the holiday or the answer to why a heart became the symbol for love–that isn’t why I felt led to grab my computer and type. But I did want to share my thoughts from throughout this morning.


First of all, making a heart be the symbol of love is selling it completely short. Even referring to love coming from the heart is really saying love is a feeling that’s temporary because the human heart does not live forever. It’s like saying that love can die and love can change.


This broke my heart to pieces as I began to realize how we, I, have viewed it that way before. Love is not going on a special date, eating special food, drinking expensive wine; coming home to flowers, chocolates or candy. Love isn’t wearing see-through lingerie and finishing the night off with sex. (Before you disagree with me and get upset, keep reading.🙂) Love is so so much more!


These things can happen as a result when you love your spouse and they are OK, but they are not what love is because those things are transient.


Absolute Love is eternal, never changing.


Love is a person.


God is Love.


If God is Love then Love is, patient and kind. Not jealous (in what you don’t have) or boastful or proud or rude. Love does not demand its own way. Love is not irritable, and keeps no record of being wronged….Love never gives up and never loses faith, enduring through every circumstance (1 Cor. 13:4-7).


Love is omnipotent and omnipresent. 


Love can not change yet Love changes everything.


None of us can really fully understand Love since none of us can fully understand God. And that’s ok! We don’t have to and God doesn’t expect us to. But we do have the greatest example, his Son Jesus. Love displayed himself on the cross, dying for our sin. Love died for my sin.


So I may express my “love” to others by doing such and such but it can’t measure up even the slightest to the ultimate Love. Reminding ourselves of the One behind Love will help us to better express it to them.


It really is amazing to me that we as sons and daughters of Love can express Love to those around us. We, as limited beings, can reveal who Love is. 


I pray that I can be the closest version of Love to those around me now and for the rest of my life.


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